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Sep 15·edited Sep 15Liked by Karen Esbenshade

A tough and difficult subject, covered in detail with sensitivity and compassion. I can only make a very simple comment that safety must always come first. Mental or physical abuse are red lines in any relationship.

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Thank you Jerry! A safety plan should be put into place when people are trying to work through generational abuse in the attempt to overcome abusive behaviors.

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Thank you Karen, and for your bravery in taking on such an important subject.

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I do believe it is our responsibility to recover and to heal. That’s how we break the generational trauma. We show our children how it’s done.

If someone won’t put in the work needed to recover they are just perpetuating the cycle.

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Unfortunately it’s easy to go through life in denial. I am grateful that I was forced to deal with my past. You are 100% correct!

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deletedSep 14Liked by Karen Esbenshade
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Very true about solutions because everyone’s situation is unique. I can’t speak to your experience in an abusive relationship but can only share my experience as a child and how my parents toxic relationship has shaped me.

What I like about Vance is that his wife supports his want to heal from the problems that stem from his upbringing. In a marriage or any healthy relationship support can make or break someone’s recovery. Managing emotions is necessary for recovery and a good support system will help. We can learn a lot from other people so I do feel that his story is very important. I learned through recovery to not diss other people’s stories.

Thank you for your encouragement. I appreciate it!

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Awareness is key.

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Codependency the struggle is real especially within marriage.

Thanks for your thoughtful feedback.

I don’t follow some of what you are saying but I think we are going down an unattended path. The focus of my post is the effects of domestic abuse on children. I just highlighted actual examples. Stories are relevant no matter whose if you agree with them or not. I learn so much from reading your writing. Thank you for that!

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